Autistic Children and Young People: How to Help Us

I have spent the past 12 months gathering the views of autistic children and young people: what is important to them, what their biggest challenges are and what they would like to change in their lives.

Before reading this, please watch this music video I have created, sharing the voice of some of these children and young people.

I have created surveys and questionnaire which to date over 900 autistic children have responded to, I have interviewed and spoken directly to around 80 children and have also consulted with hundreds of autistic adults on what they wish life was like for them when they were children.

There are four key themes that were identified during this process, and I would like to share these 4 themes with you.

Please be mindful this is just an overview of the priorities of autistic children and young people. More in-depth information, support and plans of action will be shared in the future.

Theme 1: The importance of self acceptance

As part of the most recent survey, one of the questions was:

“If you could change one thing about your life right now, what would it be?”

Here are some of the responses:

  • “My autistic behaviour”
  • “I wouldn’t have the conditions that I have”
  • “I’d go back in time and stop myself being born”
  • “I would be dead, or I would of won the lottery so I could fix what I see wrong with the country”
  • “To not be autistic and not suffer from mental health problems”
  • “The impact of autism on the rest of the family”
  • “To not have autism”

These responses show a very sad story. How can you live a happy life and thrive when you have learnt to despise an integral part of who you are?

Being autistic means you have to live a different life, but that different life can still be a happy one. Once children learn to accept themselves as autistic and start learning how to live an ‘autistic life’, things usually change for the better.

However, to get to that point, children need to be given opportunities to learn about autism and what being autistic means for them. Parents and professionals often attend autism training, but what about the children themselves?

However, there is a huge barrier to self acceptance. How can you learn to accept yourself as an autistic person if you are mistreated and misunderstood as a result of your differences?

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Therefore, there is a chicken and egg situation. Autistic children need to be supported with the other challenges they are facing at the same time to reach self acceptance. Here are some of the challenges young people would like support with to achieve this goal:

“If you could change one thing about your life right now, what would it be?”

  • “More friends”
  • “Not have to go to school”
  • “Wish I was more confident and less like a burden”
  • “To feel like I’ve done something right”
  • “People to have more time for me”
  • “I would like to worry less”
  • “My life understanding”
  • “Other people to understand me behaviour”
  • “To feel happier”
  • “To not be bullied”

Theme 2: School

Problems faced by autistic children and young people at school fit into four main categories:

  1. Bullying – It is widely recognised that bullying is an issue that affects the vast majority of autistic children and young people. Bullying needs to be tackled at its root, rather than the alternative of ‘teaching resilience and coping strategies for bullying’. This is the only way autistic children can truly feel safe and happy.
  2. Lack of understanding
  3. Lack of support
  4. Peer acceptance – Schools shouldn’t just strive to stop bullying. They should strive to promote acceptance of autistic children and young people so that they feel safe and secure. Research shows sense of school belongingness has a tremendous impact on future outcomes in SEN children and young people.

Theme 3: Parental attitudes and support

Just as autistic children go on a journey of discovery and self acceptance, parents must too, and they need to be supported with that.

Every parent has their goals, dreams and aspirations, and their children usually fit into that.

However, when you have an autistic child, your life may not be how you previously expected it to be.

Just as autistic children need to learn that they need to live a ‘different from the norm life’, parents of autistic children need to be taught that and given support with this too.

Parents also need to have a support network around them to help with this.

I want to share a fantastic article that Debby Elley from Aukids Magazine wrote (please check them out!) about the impact the right support can have:

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Theme 4: Loneliness and the autism community

So many autistic children (and adults too!) are incredibly lonely.

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There are three things that have been expressed by almost every single autistic child who has responded to the surveys or who I have been in contact with:

  • They would like more friends
  • They would like more social opportunities and fun things to do
  • They would like more opportunities to meet and learn from others who are also autistic

Some children I met with even helped to create the below image, which they say is the ideal ‘life cycle of the local autism community’, which is a place where they can meet other autistic children, make friends, do activities and learn from the experiences of autistic adults.

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Please get into contact if you have any questions or would like some support with anything related to the above. I will be more than happy to help.

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Day to day ability fluctuations

Yesterday, I got home and did nothing. I lay in bed with the same song on repeat, thinking about the meaning of life. I was in overthink mode and had no energy to do anything.

I didn’t even have the energy to play a game on my Nintendo Switch or to pay attention to a film, and that’s saying something.

I woke up this morning with my earphones in and a phone under my pillow with no  battery. It must have been a looooong, thoughtful night.

But today was different. When I woke up at 6:30am and felt amazing.

I replied to 5 weeks worth of emails I had deferred due to not really feeling able to respond, wrote half a blog post (coming soon), plus had 2 lots of breakfast and had a bath before I was picked up at 9:05am for work. Recently I’ve been struggling to even manage breakfast.

I got home from work at 4pm and I was oozing with energy. I went shopping, went to the gym for the first time in a month and started writing a new presentation. Right now, I am effortlessly writing this whereas it usually takes  a lot of time and thought. I even managed to tidy my room today (I usually keep it very clean, but never tidy) and had time for a one man party in my kitchen which the neighbours probably heard.

Some days autistic people can have very low amounts of energy. Things that may seem easy to you like washing the dishes or making your bed can feel like Mission Impossible to us sometimes. Other days, we are like superheroes and can do anything and everything.

I’ll use my bedroom as an example. I have had such low energy over the past few months that I have felt completely unable to tidy it. It got to the point where it was an absolute mess, and no matter how badly I wanted to tidy it, I couldn’t. It just felt like it was impossible before I even started, and my room ended up looking like this:

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I agree – it’s horrific.

Just to be clear – I am a clean freak. When I’m at my student house and my mum can’t tell me off for using too much water, it isn’t uncommon for me to have 4 showers a day. I also sanitise my hands before I eat anything (even if I’m not using my hands) and spend a lot of time cleaning, including completely washing my phone and iPad every day. But when I have no energy to function properly – whilst cleanliness is essential, tidiness isn’t.

Thankfully, my mum took the time to tidy it all up for me about a month ago and I have managed to more or less maintain it since.

My point is, our ability to do things fluctuates from day to day. I’ve had a lot more bad days than good recently, so I have been holding it all together at work then been unable to do much when I have got home. But I have still had my good days where I have been able to be productive and super energetic.

The problem autistic people face, is when we can do something on a good day, then we are expected to do it every day. I’m sorry, but that’s not how it works. Today, I could have easily jumped on stage and twerked for the nation if I was asked to. Yesterday, you probably wouldn’t have even got a reaction from me if you slapped me in the face.

I haven’t quite worked out properly the reasons for these fluctuations yet.

I think one major reason is spoon theory (Click on the link to read about it as I cant be bothered explaining lol).

Another big thing is that us autistic people tend to overthink a lot. It feels like the worry, negativity and analysing physically drains your energy and stops you from doing over things.

Today, compared to most other days, I woke up with no worries and nothing to overthink about. I have had a rough few months after revealing to everyone that I am autistic and completely changing my life, and maybe I’ve finally got to the point that I can stop being super anxious and start being productive again? I really hope so.

It’s quite a strange phenomenon, when you feel like you are being physically drained by your thoughts. I wonder if this happens with neurotypical people too (please let me know)? I often have debates and discussions in autism support groups on Facebook, and I can feel the energy being absorbed into my phone (unfortunately, this doesn’t charge my battery). I’ve started leaving my phone at home recently while I go out and go to the gym, and it has made me feel quite refreshed.

Of course there are going to be more things that come up that cause stress, anxiety and all the rest of that rubbish, but I’m hoping there isn’t anything for a while so I can carry on being productive and useful – if that’s how I wake up. I’ll have to wait and see.

Other than the two possible explanations above, it is quite surreal and difficult to understand. Please let me know if you can shed any light on this, and then I’ll update this post.

Either way, my point remains. We can’t always do what we usually do every day. If an autistic person says they can’t do something, please respect what they say, no matter how ridiculous it may sound to you.

To the people who don’t know that I am autistic

I am autistic.

A lot of you will not have realised this, and it hasn’t really been that important that you knew until recently.

By the way, Eminem, Bill Gates, Alan Turing, Daryl Hannah, Albert Einstein, and even the inventor of Pokémon is autistic, to name a few. Are you surprised?

To put it simply, autism is a different brain wiring that affects your perception of the world, and how you communicate and relate to other people.

Being autistic has a lot of advantages:

  1. I have a great memory – Though this is also selective – My long term memory is fantastic and I’m good at remembering random facts, but my short term memory is shocking and I forget little things like remembering to get my food out of the oven!
  2. I’m a good problem solver – I have unique thought processes which mean I can come up with innovative and creative solutions.
  3. I’m really good at Maths – It’s a common misconception that all autistic people are good at Maths. But I’m one of the people who is.
  4. Autistic people are often really blunt and honest – If a dress makes you look fat, I’ll tell you. Sometimes people get offended by my honesty, which I think is silly. Why ask if you don’t want to know the truth?
  5. I’m great at reading people – After talking to someone for 5 minutes I know whether or not they are nice and genuine and whether I will get on with them. There’s no wishy washy stuff and no in between, I quickly either like someone, or I don’t. Though I have to admit, I have been wrong a few times in my life.
  6. I’m not afraid to speak out or be different – I’m weird and irritating, but I don’t really care what other people think about that. I’m just being me.
  7. Autistic people have more capacity to store and process information – I can excel in something if I focus all of my energy on it – I got good grades at school and college and this is probably why. This is probably also why I’m absolutely sick at COD.

(I couldn’t work out how to upload Xbox One game clips so this is the best I’ve got for you soz)

So why am I writing this? 

I am happy with who I am and do not want to change. But being autistic also has its disadvantages.

A big difference in autistic people is the way our brains work. For me, socialising is not instinctive but instead a logical process. When someone asks me a question, I have to analyse the question and logically work out the best response based on responses I have used in the past, responses I’ve heard other people use and the reactions to these, as well as analysing the person’s tone of voice, body language and their current behaviour compared to how they usually act and how other people act too. For neurotypical people, this is a process which happens unconsciously, making interaction a lot easier, but for autistic people, it’s not that simple

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An example of how social interaction works for autistic people

This doesn’t just apply to socialising, but to theory of mind, recognising emotions, giving the right eye contact and more. Luckily, I can usually do this process quickly enough to appear ‘normal’ and more or less fit in.th

But as you can probably imagine, doing this every day during every interaction is bloody exhausting.

Sometimes i cheat and use the same learned responses so I don’t need to process as much. Whenever someone says ‘how are you’, my go to response is ‘I’m alright thanks how are you?’ no matter how I feel, just to save a bit of energy.

So I have been doing what everyone else does. Going on nights out, socialising and whatever else every day. But then when I’ve gone home I’ve needed time to rest and get my energy back to repeat the next day because of the extra work involved for me.

But recently it got to the point where I couldn’t do this anymore. I started using more energy each day than I could recover each night due to taking up more commitments like working more and studying at university. I started to decline, started to withdraw and started feeling more and more worn out. As this happened, I started eat less, sleep less and started getting even more anxious that usual (autistic people often experience anxiety) which had an even further negative impact.

In December I hit rock bottom. As a result, I failed my university exams and I was pretty miserable. This is when I realised that I need to change how I live my life.

Now I’m having a break from university and starting semester 2 again in February next year so that I have time to get back on track.

I’m also going to stop trying to hard to fit in and start being myself more. This starts by letting everyone know that I am autistic.

If I say no when you ask me to come out or to meet up, it’s not necessarily because I don’t want to, but it could be because I don’t have enough energy on that particular day and need some time to recharge.

The things that I am expected to do, like fluff things up and not be blunt and honest, to give the right eye contact, to get a degree and get a good job, to stop gaming and ‘acting like a child’, I’m not going to conform to anymore.

Everything I do will be for me. I’m going back to uni in February. Not because I am expected to do it, but because I want to. And if it doesn’t work out or I end up not going back and people are annoyed with me or judge me because of it, I don’t care.

People expect me to message them every now and again for pointless small talk, but I feel like it’s exactly that – pointless. And it uses up a lot of energy. Sorry if you get frustrated when I don’t get into contact, but it’s important that I preserve my energy and it doesn’t mean that I care about you any less.

For the past few months at home I have spent all of my time with headphones in, avoiding conversation and being alone. I’ve also been quickly angry or frustrated when people have tried talking to me, asking questions or initiating some draining small talk. It isn’t that I don’t want to spend time with anyone, it’s that I need time without interaction so that I can function properly when I am doing important things like when I am at work. I will still talk to you and we can still go out and do activities, but only when I feel like I can. Though I have to admit I haven’t felt able to do much recently, which is why I need to start doing more to get back on track.

To everyone reading this, I’m still the exact same person. You probably won’t even notice any difference in me and you’ll probably still see me as the exact same tool who’s shocking at football (even though he loves it) and has the worst voice on the planet. I just won’t be doing everything the way I’m expected to anymore.

(I really wasn’t lying when I said I cant sing!)

Don’t forget that I am just one autistic person. Every autistic person is different and unique in their own way. Don’t judge them based on me, and don’t judge me based on them. We have similar thinking styles and have some of the same challenges so we can relate to each other a lot, but we are still individuals. Just like every neurotypical human is completely individual.

 

 

Being an Invisible Young Autistic Part 1: The Dress Code

It can’t be that bad can it?’ some random man in the breakfast shop says, as I wait for my bacon and egg muffin in a good mood but with my morbid, effortless face on. Just do one will you Alan.

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When having a ‘normal’ face takes too much effort

You youngens on your phones. Back in my day we used to do fun things in the REAL WORLD. How times have changed’. My dear old Margaret. You sound like a lovely woman who has truly experienced life in the best possible way, but please shut up.

Social chit chat and small talk is pointless, irritating and hard work! I want to share what to do when you have had enough of humans, but when you still need to be out and about. This post will be about how to dress to suppress…

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If you look really closely, you’ll notice that there is no one there

The best dress style to develop to avoid interaction is the Roadman style.

What is a Roadman, I hear you ask?

comedian-michael-dapaah-in-character-as-big-shaq (1)‘A Roadman, also known… (Yes known) as a simpleton. These inferior beings wear filthy Nike and Adidas clothing accompanied with a hat and a man bag. A hat to hide their dandruff and man bag to hide their mum’s stolen wallet. These “people” have no future ambitions and commit local crimes for a living’

By K/O (Source: Urban Dictionary)

The discovery of the Roadman look was the best thing that has ever happened to me. I can walk along the street in their style and people avoid eye contact and pretend they can’t see me. Sometimes people even cross the road because they’re so keen to avoid me! You need to get it right though. You don’t want to take it so far that you look like you’re about to murder someone. You just need to look like someone who doesn’t look like they have any dangerous affiliations, but people won’t know for sure.

Here are my tips:

Trainers

Stick to Nike or Adidas. Find that group of kids who are wearing skin tight jeans and see what trainers they have on, trainers are pretty much the only thing that matter to these people so they know their stuff.  If you are sensitive to touch, the Adidas Ultra Boost Uncaged are perfect – sometimes I don’t even feel like I’m wearing shoes when I have these on.

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Adidas Ultra Boost Uncaged

Other personal favourites include Nike Utility Huaraches and Nike Prestos:

If you’re on a budget, go for Adidas Superstars or Nike Cortez:

Trackies/ Joggers

A decent pair of trackies/ joggers is essential.

These days, your trackies need to be skinny/ slim fit if you want to look the part. Nike and Adidas again pretty much run the market for a decent pair of trackies:

But if you want plain joggers, there are a variety of skinny and slim fit options to choose from too:

Coat

For the full Roadman look, you need a bubble coat. North Face and Nike do the best ones:

If you are on a budget, Zara also has a great range at a low price, but Zara clothes tend to have a short lifespan:

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The short term option

You don’t always need a bubble coat though, another ‘trendy’ one will do. My favourite is this:

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Don’t ask me why I’m sat on a black leather sofa. I’m dangerous, remember? So be quiet

It has the perfect hood to block out sensory input (sight and sound) and makes me look super unsociable. It has great pockets that can easily fit my infinity cube and keys and allow me to fiddle with them unnoticed.

In the Summer, try and find a thin coat, or a ‘fashionable’ hoodie. Luckily since I’m in Manchester and its usually colder than Theresa May’s heart here, I can spend most days with a coat on.

Putting your hands in your pockets is a bonus. You may be playing with a fiddle toy, but other people don’t have to know that. Who knows what you could be hiding?

Bag

Any backpack or typical bag will do (but don’t lower yourself to a man bag). But if you want to turn it up a notch, invest in a gym bag. People don’t really mess with Roadmen, but they definitely don’t mess with stocky Roadmen. Obviously the coat is hiding all of the muscle you pretend you have and you’re ready for action if anyone dares defy you.

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When your camera makes it look like you have no ears and a massive head rather than that you have headphones on…

Other important accessories

  • Headphones/ earphones

Headphones/ earphones are essential. Why would anyone try and talk to you if you can’t hear what they’re saying?

There is an art in this. You need to make sure people can see you have headphones on. I have a bulky pair which people can see sticking out of my hood. I also make sure part of the cable is dangling out under my jacket so that people know I definitely have headphones on.

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Big Headphones

Earphones are more incognito, so it isn’t always obvious you have them on and people may still try and talk to you – so I advise sticking to headphones if you can – which are also great if you are sensitive to sound because they have a noise reduction effect.

If you are nervous about others around you, just turn your volume down. You can hear what they’re saying, but still don’t have to talk.

  • Sunglasses

If it’s too hot to wear a coat, wear sunglasses. People won’t know where you’re looking, and this combined with your earphones/ headphones is the perfect combination to be left in peace. If you aren’t left in peace, at least you don’t need to give any dreaded eye contact:

Life is so much more fun when you don’t need to worry about looking people in the eye
A few other bits

You need to have a confident walk. This may seem counterproductive, but it pays dividends once you have mastered it. Try and look like you are walking with intent.

If you see someone you know, just get your phone out and pretend you’re doing something important to avoid their gaze.

Don’t forget about appropriation – Recently I went to a strategy meeting in my Roadman clothes, and a security guard escorted me to the room to make sure I wasn’t there to cause trouble! I tend to just swap my pants with a pair of jeans for important events so I look at least slightly socially acceptable.

If the Roadman style isn’t for you. There are other ways to be ignored. The next best option is the ‘I think I’m better than you’ look:

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Donald Trump doesn’t just have the ‘I think I’m better than you’ look, but he has the personality too. Luckily, we can all see through it and know he’s a numpty

I hope you have found this useful. I get left alone most of the time now. I still get funny looks when I remember something funny and give out a random burst of laughter, or sing a line of a song/ bust a dance move when I forget other people are around, but you can’t have it all.

Now go and enjoy some bloody peace and quiet!

Transitioning from being a lost ‘neurotypical’ to a happy autistic

This time two years ago when I was 18, the way everyone saw it, life was going great for me. I had a job I loved, I aced my first set of university exams, I had lots of friends and I had strong career prospects.

Now I am 20 years old, and sat in McDonalds at 2am, with my shoes off, fidgeting with an infinity cube, staring at a wall with my headphones in, like I have for the past 2 hours. This has been a common occurrence over the last few months. Recently, I have been feeling pretty lost, avoiding social interaction and barely eating and sleeping.

This happened as a result of being autistic. Let me go back to the start and explain how I got to this stage…1431173202-35195600

I have the typical undiagnosed/ late diagnosed autistic story that you are probably bored of reading by now. I always knew I was different, I was bullied at school, I masked my true self and all that jibber jabber. I’ll go into detail about my traits etc. in future blog posts.

There are a few things I want to mention though:

  • Everyday when I got home from school I used to read books and play games to escape from a world I never truly understand. Why try socialising when you can save the Universe with your dinosaur astronaut friends?
  • POKEMON WAS MY LIFE – I used to play on the driveway with my neighbour who was 4 years younger than me, so that I had someone to share my special interest with. Did you know the creator of Pokémon is autistic too?
  • I had a ‘normal’ home life. I live with my mum and my brother. I didn’t just mask at school, but I masked at home too. My priority when I was younger was to fit in. But as I got older, I stopped doing what my mum wanted me to do as much and started thinking about myself. Now I don’t really speak to my mum because I don’t conform to what she wants anymore.
  • I did well at school. Studying was a lot easier than socialising, so I finished school with 8 A*s and 3 As, and finished college with grades A*AA too.8248-Mega-Tyranitar

Before starting university, I got a part time job which completely changed my life. It was a job as a support worker, offering social opportunities to children with special needs. From the first shift, I felt like I fit in. I understood most of the children and loved every minute I spent there. I started doing more to learn about the children, reading about autism in particular, and I was surprised by how much I related to what I read. Like I said, I always realised I was different, but this job made me realise I am autistic. 

Sarah, my boss, is who I have to thank for this realisation. it was her who gave me the job – a nerdy loser who wanted to be a web developer or an accountant, I’m still not sure why. It was Sarah who noticed how at home I felt when I was with the children, despite keeping to myself when I was with the staff. It was Sarah who said I was doing great and made me feel appreciated (as well as the kids who were asking me to work with them of course!). This was the first time I received positive feedback for being myself. I hid some things, like my anxiety and my difficulty understanding emotions, but I enjoyed work and I felt comfortable being there. I might driver her mad now when I get the kids overexcited, sing too loudly or go on crazy adventures, but she’s the one who made me feel comfortable doing that. She was also the first person in my personal life I told I was autistic. Us autistic people need more Sarah’s in the world.IMG_2592

After starting this job I felt like the piece of my life that was missing had been found. As a result, my first instinct was to do more to support autistic people, and I started working and volunteering for 14 different organisations. I changed degree from Computer Science to Psychology and got involved with everything I possibly could. As I was doing this I noticed more and more of the huge struggles and challenges that these autistic children and young people were facing and were going to face in the future. People say autistic people do not have empathy. But that is not true, we have too much empathy. I felt like I wasn’t doing enough to help these children and as a result set up the charity A Spectrum of Possibilities in June 2017. But I was so overwhelmed by how much need there is that my empathy turned from a driving force into a burden.asopFinal2x

I got so overwhelmed and upset by it that I got to the point where I could no longer function. Everything was too much: the empathy, all of my commitments and the energy used to mask my autism and fit in. As a result I went through a process known as autistic burnout (you can read a fantastic blog explaining what burnout is here). I failed my second year of university exams, I stopped seeing friends and going out, I started overthinking about every little thing and I started spending more and more time on my own: sitting and thinking and going on random walks. My burnout started in December 2017, and I have only recently started my road to recovery, and to functionality in February 2018.

My life has changed rapidly over these 3 months.

During this time I spoke to autistic people who told me about burnout and how to move forward. I was mainly told I need time to recover and need a break from everything.

I went to counselling sessions to get support, but all of their strategies either don’t work for autistic people like me or simply didn’t help.

It felt like an endless downwards spiral. I needed a break, but I couldn’t have a break because of the expectations people had of me, and the amount of things I had planned or needed to do.18l05sl1romt4jpg

This made me realise that I need to change my life.

need to get rid of the mask and stop trying to conform, as this takes up too much energy.

need to tackle any problems at their core, rather than trying to cope and deal with the aftermath.

Autistic people have written a lot about this. Eventually, you get to the point where you run out of fuel and can no longer live the fake neurotypical life. This leads to mental health problems, and even suicide in autistic people who don’t realise they need to change and start being themselves.

So it is my time to change.

Now I ask everyone to be black and white, open and honest with me, like I am with them, due to my huge anxiety over uncertainty. I also bought a productivity planner and scheduled all of the tasks I had to do this year, and put them into manageable chunks I can do each day so that I stopped feeling as overwhelmed. Plus, I have stopped speaking to ‘friends’ who just used me and didn’t reciprocate and I started tackling my other anxieties. I have also made a pledge to share that I am autistic to everyone, to stop masking as much and to let everyone know what I need.Titanic-meme---Lets-be-honest

I am still not really sleeping, I still have a rubbish appetite, I still avoid lots of interaction and I still faze out of the world and go into deep thought. I also still don’t know if I will be able to complete my Psychology degree, but I am improving and I am ready to start being myself. Most importantly of all, I am ready to live life the way I am supposed to. It isn’t going to be easy, but I now have some amazing people in my life who I am very grateful for, who have helped me get to this point, and who I think will help me go further. They aren’t there for me because I pretend to be someone I’m not, but they are there for the real me. If you mask for your whole life, you will never get the opportunity to meet amazing people like this. I am grateful for the opportunity to realise who I really am and what I need to do to be happy. Thank you!201504_1141_baeei_sm (2)

The purpose of A Spectrum of Possibilities is to empower autistic children and young people, celebrate their differences and make sure they live happy, prosperous lives, by using the experiences of autistic adults to stop these children from going through what we have gone through and to help them to understand themselves and what they need.

But we aren’t just here for the children. Parents play an essential role in the future of autistic children. We are here to help parents understand their children and to help them with their struggles, but also to learn how to utilise their children’s unique strengths. I know autism coming into your life is a huge shock, but ASOP is here to support you in your autism journey, which is a long and challenging one, but which pays dividends in the long run if you do it right. I am going to write future blog posts that will hopefully help you understand and help your children more.

If you feel lost, hopeless, or just need a bit of guidance or support, please get in touch and I will do anything I can for you. I am fighting for a future where all autistic children can grow up happy, and I would love to show you how to do the same for your children.

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